A letter I did not send this evening to someone I went on a couple of dates with:

On the issue of talking about your custody case, it's natural for you to want to pump my brains, and to a certain degree I don't mind discussing it. However, to be frank, I'm a non-custodial parent who was in a very similar position to your ex 16 years ago, and naturally I have a certain degree of sympathy. In addition, as you are already aware, the woman I was with last year had virtually nothing positive to say about her ex almost the entire time I was with her, and I use the term "almost" because our relationship ended when she got back together with him. And you have to know that at my job I see attitudes like yours every day, day in, day out.

Realisticly, the guy is going to end up with visitation of some sort. You may think he is nuts, but has he been diagnosed with a mental ilness? no? Diagnosed schizophrenics end up with visitation. Diagnosed manic depressives end up with custody (sometimes they raise 12 kids actually and the majority of them end up highly productive citizens). People with criminal records end up with custody. People in prison end up with visitation. People with drug histories end up with custody. People who beat on their spouses get visitation. Distance does not prohibit contact. I have people who live 4 hours away by plane who visit with their children: who actually take their children with them 4 hours away by plane and have extended time with their children. Nothing you have told me about your ex suggests that he will not get visitation

Shitting on the ex is a time treasured form of entertainment for losers everywhere (including myself and my ex at times). Get over it. Move on. Prove that you have better ways to spend your spare time. Indifference, not hate, is the opposite of love. When you become so satisfied with your life and your self that you do not give a rat's ass anymore then you have won. At that point, winning will have become irrelevant to you anyway.

NEXT PLEASE!

Also, dislikes cats. Not allergic, which I can understand, but just dislikes them.