I might have mentioned this in the past, and I am hoping against hope that this is preaching to the choir, but since this still happens, and happens on a regular (read: weekly) basis, please take note of this and pass it on to your cluefully-challenged, well-meaning friends and relatives.

It is rude and unacceptable to make comments about how well someone manages a wheelchair or scooter. No one asked you and it is condescending to the max. Note the "well-meaning" phrase above. Guess what? I don't care.

I've probably ranted about this before, and folks have probably suggested every sort of fix from commenting on how well someone walks to well, i don't remember. I have little or no interest in getting into a confrontation or providing a lesson or learning experience for someone who is insensitive, even if they're well meaning. It is none of your goddam business how well I manage my scooter or wheelchair. How dare anyone comment on this? You don't know me, you don't know when I became disabled, you don't know what is involved, and why do you think "praising" me is acceptable or your business.

Okay? Are we clear now? Pass this on if you would like. I guarantee that many of you know someone who has said this to someone. As I say, I get it pretty much every week. In the elevator, on the bus, some stranger will comment on something that is, remarkably, none of anyone's business. I am 62, and have been disabled much of my life. I don't need your pat on the head at how skilled I am that I can use a basic device to get around. It is not your right or your business. I don't need your approval or praise.

Don't ask and don't tell.Got it?