I recently read an article that said the Research Showed that kids do better when parents don't get divorced.

I also recently read an article that said that Research Showed that children had fewer behavioral problems after their parents divorced.

Here's the deal: it's not an either/or proposition. It depends on the nature of the relationship.

If you don't want to be married anymore, you're disappointed and unfulfilled, but you love your kids and can carry on a civil relationship with your spouse, it's probably better for the kids if you stay together long enough to give them as solid a foundation as you can.

If you hate your spouse and feel betrayed and yell at each other or refuse to speak to each other for days, just letting the air simmer and crackle with resentment, then the kids will probably be better off if you and your spouse go your separate ways.


I'm so glad Rade and I didn't have kids before realizing we weren't supposed to be married to each other. It made things so much easier.