I'm curious...

1. Why am I still pissed off about stupid things that happened in the past, and why can't I just leave them there, forgive, and forget? Wouldn't that be easier?

2. Is it not contradictory for my father to tell me, "I know you aren't taking sides, I don't expect you to" and then turn around and announce he's having a CAT scan done, but refuse to elaborate on what it's for because he doesn't want my mother to know? Is that even fair?