Do we all dream of somewhere? somewhere we can do what we really want to do without hurting others feelings? where we can take the time to nourish ourselves with out taking from them? Or am I alone in this?

I have been doing some heaving thinking and remembering. My father always told me that I walked around "with my heads in the clouds" or "in your own little world", and I guess I did. I think that I stopped that-or stopped having the chance to do that at all afther the kids left and it became just hubby and me-now he needs my undivided attention. It is alot of one on one, sometimes more than I feel that I can give. I feel that I need to "steal" breathing room. And I haven't really had any since before Christmas. Its really bad to think of it, but I am coming to see something that I didn't know about myself. I don't think that the problem is with him, but with me-I need more space than he does. I need separateness and he doesn't. Now how to work it out.

Work has Employee assistance programs, I have already been in touch with them, they found a local counselor. Work pays for 4 sessions/per problem. Paid time off 1 hour plus travel. I need to set up the appointment. I was hoping to talk to a counselor over the phone, but it didn't work out that way.

I know that part of the problem is that out here we do not have family for hubby to reach out to so I am the only one he will reach to. But we work at the same place, we get home within 15 minutes of each other, and we are together normally the rest of the day/night. This has been going on since Sept of 07. We are in each others pockets 24/7.

will have to work on it.

Got a major project done quickly this morning-the person who explained it made it sound harder than it was. But, then again, this is the just the beginning of it.