But what really hurt is when he said that he didn't really like my hair.
I cut it again-it is short and when I do it right, it gets curly-really curly. He told me it looks like a brillo pad. NO, it looks like a poodle-a soft poodle, and I know it does this, but it works with my face. Its not a tight curl, but loose. I did it that way yesterday. I was telling Wendy (the coworker who said I was loosing weight), and she said she loved my hair yesterday-it looked "wet" and shiny and the curl was great. she said today looked good too-but different. And then she asked me if I liked my hair. I said yes, she said the ignore hubby. That he will find things wrong all the time because he is trying to control me.

last night he made comments about me getting my nails done again-that he hadn't expected it. Well, I had told him I was getting them done-they need it every two weeks and he knows that. But this is the longest I have kept them going and I like how they are going. They look nice and remind me that I am worth something. they are for me. I think that upsets him-these things are for me-not for him. My hair, my weight loss, my clothes, my make up, my nails, are for me-for how I feel -not how he or anyone else feels. And since I have been doing these things his behavior gets worse-the arguements are worse when I get my hair done or my nails done,(especially if my hair gets cut_. Hmmm-this just dawned on me. I didn't cancel my hair appointment this week even though my DD called with that emergency (false as it turned out) that would have cost us $$. I still spent on myself. He didn't like it. He made a comment about using his electric razor to trim his beard/mustache etc. I told him to go to barber/hairdresser. (matyr syndrome) Ok, now I know!