TT made a statement about my DH needing to trust me to stay because I want to and not because I need to.

Many years ago we came real close to divorcing. We actually started figuring out how to do it. And we both came to the realization that we couldn't afford it. Neither one of us could support ourselves and the kids. We were barely making it combined. So we toughed it out.

Now I know I don't 'need' him to survive. And he knows it too. And it scares him. He has accused me of not trusting him, but I think that it really is the opposite. He doesn't trust me. He has made comments to me indicating that he expects me to clear out the Illinois account where my paycheck goes. I have no intention of doing that. I have told him so. But only time will show him. And that is the catch. Because right now I am showing him that I am changing. And to him change is a bad thing.

That is what he has to learn to resolve.