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Last night was a calm evening. I am tired when I get home. This job is different now-these directors(have acting these next two weeks) use me like a normal secretary. So I am kept busy, when there is work.

Dh and I ate supper then watched NCIS and NCIS LA. Then it was bed, I was falling asleep. As we were doing normal bedtime stuff, DH said, "When my wheelchair is fixed, Will you help me open an account at the Credit Union?" My thoughts went to,'you can't open one on your own?' My voice said,"NO". He was continuing with, "You can deposit your money at the same time." I was thinking 'HUH?' Then he reacted to the 'no'. Apparently he was thinking that I should be there to make sure he gets the free checking-he didn' say that. He has a voice. I didn't say all of this. I apologized for not understanding all of that he meant, but he wasn't happy.

He's 55. I went and opened an account by myself. He started with this is something we can do together. ?? Then on to how he wants to make sure he gets the same kind of account that I do-to avoid fees. When I told him that he didn't have to get an account the same place I do, that he can use BofA since his paycheck is autodeposited there so he won't get the fees, he didn't like that. Not one bit. He said he will be keeping his money in a bag in the apartment. I told him to stop being dumb. Today it has gone on to "you just don't want to help me. A loving wife would do this with now questions. You used to. This has to do with your statement." WTF! Well, partially right. I told him he doesn't need help with this. It will take half an hour, I don't need to be there. I am staying firm with this. I am not wrong, am I?

Now the argument has changed to he doesn't need help with anything. Even things that we have done for each other-I take his socks off at night and check his feet and lower limbs. He does not feel cuts because of neuropathy. This is what a wife does. Not help him open his own bank account. One is true service, the other is enmeshment.

See I have learned.

Thanks for helping me.

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Previous Entry :: Next Entry Mood: Annoyed Read/Post Comments (2) Share on Facebook		2011-10-19 8:02 AM I said 'no', don't think I was wrong? Last night was a calm evening. I am tired when I get home. This job is different now-these directors(have acting these next two weeks) use me like a normal secretary. So I am kept busy, when there is work. Dh and I ate supper then watched NCIS and NCIS LA. Then it was bed, I was falling asleep. As we were doing normal bedtime stuff, DH said, "When my wheelchair is fixed, Will you help me open an account at the Credit Union?" My thoughts went to,'you can't open one on your own?' My voice said,"NO". He was continuing with, "You can deposit your money at the same time." I was thinking 'HUH?' Then he reacted to the 'no'. Apparently he was thinking that I should be there to make sure he gets the free checking-he didn' say that. He has a voice. I didn't say all of this. I apologized for not understanding all of that he meant, but he wasn't happy. He's 55. I went and opened an account by myself. He started with this is something we can do together. ?? Then on to how he wants to make sure he gets the same kind of account that I do-to avoid fees. When I told him that he didn't have to get an account the same place I do, that he can use BofA since his paycheck is autodeposited there so he won't get the fees, he didn't like that. Not one bit. He said he will be keeping his money in a bag in the apartment. I told him to stop being dumb. Today it has gone on to "you just don't want to help me. A loving wife would do this with now questions. You used to. This has to do with your statement." WTF! Well, partially right. I told him he doesn't need help with this. It will take half an hour, I don't need to be there. I am staying firm with this. I am not wrong, am I? Now the argument has changed to he doesn't need help with anything. Even things that we have done for each other-I take his socks off at night and check his feet and lower limbs. He does not feel cuts because of neuropathy. This is what a wife does. Not help him open his own bank account. One is true service, the other is enmeshment. See I have learned. Thanks for helping me. Read/Post Comments (2) Previous Entry :: Next Entry Back to Top