T G I F!!!

It is great that our MC will see us on Thursday evenings at 8pm. Unfortunately that means we don't get home till close to 10. Last night we went to B&N and bought 3 books for DGD, 2 crochet magazines for me, and the first 2 books of the Hunger Games series for me to read and then B will read the series in the correct order. I am already half way through the first book. It is not a hard read-it is meant for early teens. Oh, well, still a good book.

Then we went to supper at Pot Belly-subs and water, tried the cole slaw-couldn't eat that-too vinegary. Stayed there awhile, but still showed up at the therapists office an hour early. I started reading my book, B played on his phone.

Then the MC asked how we were the past week. Well, I told her about a 'discussion' that never went anywhere except into a circular argument. And because it couldn't progress, B decided he was moving out of the bedroom, the marriage was over and he was a failure. Now, this wasn't over anything big. It was over something I may or may not have told him-my doc being on vacation. I thought I did. He didn't remember me telling him. No real big deal, right? But to him it was. And because we couldn't resolve it, it meant failure and THE END (to B). Eventually came to the conclusion that it wasn't the end, that in the grand scheme of things, it was not even an atom's worth of notice. But the trouble caused in resolving the issue-B couldn't get out of the mindset that everything was over. And he expressed that feeling at MC. Final determination, he starts EMDR next week.

It normally is about 1/2 hour and is very intensive. I will be sitting in as an observer, manly to provide support afterwards and to prepare myself. MC believes I may have undergone this myself or something similiar in earlier therapies. B is emotionally stuck in childhood. Severe trauma/abuse in early childhood along with abandonment issues plus his own personality and lack of seeking assistance to deal with all of this has built up to a point where he copes with adult issues in the same way he dealt with the emotions as a child. Only it doesn't work. Until he deals with the childs issues and faces them head on, we will not be able to get any further. MC doesn't think that I will be surprised at anything I hear from him. Only, I didn't know how to help him since I am not trained in this, only I could recognize that he wasn't healthy. (with help from you all).

so progress is being made. He is scared, but is trying to face his demons. And there is hope, and a beam of sunlight pushing through. She did ask if either of us had addictions. I told her that when I was younger-early 20s I had the signs of alcohol addiction and dealt with it then. And stay away from alcohol. Delibrately. She said good. More reading homework from sheet of paper. Still need to find book she recommended. We both forgot about it at B&N yesterday.