There aren't many things that just plain make me angry, but blaming the victim is definitely one of them, and especially when it is done within a religious setting. Say someone is ill and the implication is made that if they had enough faith they would get better. And it get's very subtle sometimes. But in the end it usually boils down to this: "God wants to heal you but s/he's waiting for you to prove yourself."

I don't even like to talk about prayer in the occasion of someone facing serious illness because I fear implicitly suggesting somehow it's the sick person's fault. Like God might answer my prayer when s/he wouldn't answer their own desperate prayers already uttered. This again implies something wrong with the sick person -- God won't listen to you but will listen to me.

That just doesn't seem like the kind of God worth praying to.