"the only reason i've always hated you is becuase peggy is your mother"

this is what my dad's (now deceased) best friend's (joe) widow said to his grandson while they were saying goodbye to him at the casket tonight.

dad's best friend's first wife died. he's been married to barbara for almost 27 years. barbara and joe's kids and grandkids don't get along, to put it mildly.

barbara actually said that to joe's grandson while he was saying goodbye to his grandpa over the coffin tonight at the visitation.

i couldn't beleive it. the poor guy left the funeral home in tears. he was sooo close to his grandpa.

what none of us understand is how joe, who is one of the nicest men i've ever known, could be married to this woman for all those years. what a bitch.

i know the grandson. my son nigel used to work for him. he is such a meek, sweet guy. joe's entire family is sweet as the day is long.

what makes people so damn mean? the woman is standing over her husband's coffin with his favorite grandson, and yet all she can say to him is that the only reason she's always hated him is because of his mother. is that supposed to be an apology? a compliment? what the hell was her point???

again i say, bitch. i've gone out of my way to be nice to her while joe was so sick. i've visited with her, sat with him, gone to the grocery for her. but i'll be damned if i'll do anything else for the woman now that joe is gone. his kids and grandkids know how i felt about him, and they know how i feel about them, and now i guess they'll know how i feel about her too.

dad said if she calls him he's gonna tell her to piss off. he, nor i, wanted to rock the boat while joe was still alive, but now that he's gone, none of us want anything more to do with that woman.

i knew there were issues between all of them, i guess now i fully understand why.