We adopted from Russia -

I capitalize because it's important.

If you've been at all interested in adoption, what adoptees feel about it, or how adoptive parents can approach certain issues, you must read the following book:

BEING ADOPTED: The Lifelong Search for Self
authors:
David M. Brodzinsky, PhD
Marshall D Schechter, M.D.
Robin Marantz Henig

It's a very interesting book, and pretty darn close to almost everything I felt growing up. Now granted, most adoptees don't go to the extremes that are discussed in each chapter, and the authors acknowledge that.

We picked it up at Barnes and Noble for 14 bucks. The authors discuss normal life stages, and how it is looked at differently from an adoptee's point of view (with real-life people & examples). Here is some insight into the chapters:

Infancy - The First Year of Life

Growth of Trust
Adjustment
Bonding

Toddlerhood and Preschool

The Verbal Self
Parroting the Adoption Story

Middle Childhood (ages 6-12)

Self Esteem
Grieving the Lost Family
Family Romance Fantasy
"Searching" Begins - in the Imagination
Realizing "I am different"

Adolescence (13-19)

How Do I Look?
Resolving the Identity Crisis
Family Romance Fantasy Continues
Sexual Expression
First Signs of an Active Search

Young Adulthood (20s and 30s)

Seeking and Achieving Intimacy
When Am I A "grown-up"?
Parenthood: Undoing Past Mistakes
Career Identity
The Search: Who, When, and Why

Mid-Life (40s and 50s)

Constructing a Legacy - Out Of What?
Acceptance About Being Adopted
Veil of Secrecy - Can It Be Lifted?
Still Wondering After All These Years

Late Adulthood (60s and beyond)

Coming to Terms
The Life Review
Searching: One Last Chance

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2003-09-02 9:55 PM You Should Educate Yourself Previous Entry :: Next Entry Mood: Contemplative Read/Post Comments (0) Share on Facebook	I capitalize because it's important. If you've been at all interested in adoption, what adoptees feel about it, or how adoptive parents can approach certain issues, you must read the following book: BEING ADOPTED: The Lifelong Search for Self authors: David M. Brodzinsky, PhD Marshall D Schechter, M.D. Robin Marantz Henig It's a very interesting book, and pretty darn close to almost everything I felt growing up. Now granted, most adoptees don't go to the extremes that are discussed in each chapter, and the authors acknowledge that. We picked it up at Barnes and Noble for 14 bucks. The authors discuss normal life stages, and how it is looked at differently from an adoptee's point of view (with real-life people & examples). Here is some insight into the chapters: Infancy - The First Year of Life Growth of Trust Adjustment Bonding Toddlerhood and Preschool The Verbal Self Parroting the Adoption Story Middle Childhood (ages 6-12) Self Esteem Grieving the Lost Family Family Romance Fantasy "Searching" Begins - in the Imagination Realizing "I am different" Adolescence (13-19) How Do I Look? Resolving the Identity Crisis Family Romance Fantasy Continues Sexual Expression First Signs of an Active Search Young Adulthood (20s and 30s) Seeking and Achieving Intimacy When Am I A "grown-up"? Parenthood: Undoing Past Mistakes Career Identity The Search: Who, When, and Why Mid-Life (40s and 50s) Constructing a Legacy - Out Of What? Acceptance About Being Adopted Veil of Secrecy - Can It Be Lifted? Still Wondering After All These Years Late Adulthood (60s and beyond) Coming to Terms The Life Review Searching: One Last Chance Read/Post Comments (0) Previous Entry :: Next Entry Back to Top
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