Student "edition" found at {thoughts dot com slash typed no space out no space loud slash blog}.

Maybe I shouldn't have started this blog now, not with everything that's been going on.

I promised Justin and Chat last Sunday that this will be one of my topics for this week something not for the kiddies, so here it is.

Boy and girl, both over 18, worked together since January, and last summer both joined the company beach trip.

After several hours of drinking with the rest of their co-workers, they ended up sitting alone together at the shoreline in the wee hours of the morning, but nothing happened. Boy was either too gallant, or was waiting for a more blatant sign of reciprocation from the girl than staying there with him.

Girl, who was only employed part-time, found better work somewhere else, and there was no contact for months.

That is, until the weekend, where girl sent a "hello there" text out of the blue. Boy says he's busy, but asks how girl is.

Girl says she is on the way to his neck of the woods that evening (the exchange happened close to noon).

From way out in left field, boy asks girl: if he had propositioned her that summer, would she have agreed to sex?

Her reply was, as faithfully as possible translated from the vernacular: "Back then? I most likely would not have because in the past I was too conscientious about hurting people whose affections I don't return."

What was his reply? "I'm glad, because I like you and respect you too much to have done anything meaningless. At least we're friends now."

Afterward, talking to his friends about it, a lot of the guys said that what they read from her message was: "I would not have taken advantage of your vulnerability before because I didn't share your feelings, but I'm okay with it now."

So in his place, they are saying they would have replied: "Okay, let's meet up then and pick up where we left off."

They are also saying he completely missed the moment because her reply was that she will contact him the next time she's in the area.

Sure it gives hope, but what was wrong with meeting that night already? Besides, she can totally not tell him the next time she's close by, and just lie and say she has no opportunity to hang out.

In other words, her parting words were actually noncommittal, despite the come-ons of saying she will be near by that night, and the repetition of the words "back then" and "in the past" in her honest reply.

His friends were also saying that he absolutely missed the boat that day, and replying the way they wanted even just the next day would not receive a favorable response, because when can anyone be sure she'd pass that way again?

In typical fox-grape-souring manner, boy now says that he would not have wanted a meaningless and one-way tryst with her anyway, since he still believes they should be a couple.

Besides, he said, if she is into casual bed mates now, he doesn't like her anymore.

Session 2811 says sour grapes are so smart and rational. Class dismissed.