Grandma's Journal

Well today has been an ok day. I spent most of the morning making phone call's and taking care of business. Have more to do tomorrow.

I have been heavy in thought today. Need to make some changes and plans.

My sister told me last night that the time has come to put my mother in a Nursing Home. I am not ready to do this. Working in Nursing Homes I know what kind of care, food, etc they get. If I put my mother in one, I know she wouldn't make it a month! I don't feel that is a right choice for me to make. That is me making my mothers death sentance. I told my sister NO way was I ready to do that. My sister looked at me and said well then "I will NO longer watch MOM when you need me too!"...wow was I shocked! So now I have NO support or releif from my family. My brother can't do it, as he has alzehmiers himself and he is going down hill fast...so now I am on my own...

I can still leave my mom alone for several hours...she needs help in the morning getting dressed, and/or showering...she needs someone to put food on the table for her for breakfast, lunch and dinner as she doesn't know how to cook anymore...then she needs help putting her pj's on and being tucked into bed...yes I have to do her laundry too!

I tried to figure out what I was going to do when I go on vacation, or out of town once in awhile...I figured I could hire someone to come in and stay with her while I am gone...I know a few people who are going to school and are taking the nursing course...so that would be a plus...

I use to have a teenage girl that would come sit with mom when I went to hockey games, but I don't feel she is responsable enought for staying here for a weekend or a week, as she is just too young for that, it is ok for a few hours...

So after talking with Amy about it, Amy told me to write a list of what I would need someone to do during the day/evening to help my mom out, so that is what I will do tomorrow morning....

I will also call Copes and start the process there, but I think they will charge way to much, and my mom doesn't have enough money to pay for that....I really think having someone who wants a few extra dollars in their pocket would be a better choice here...someone I can trust is very important to me.

So that is my daily thinking, and if anyone has any ideas, I am up to hearing them.

Grandma's Journal My Journal I became a Grandma at the age of 49 years old. Well I was actually only 17 days from being 50. My baby girl gave me gave me my first grandchild. He was a beautiful bouncy boy. Then 2 years later she surprised me on my birthday at 5am by waking me up and telling me "Happy Birthday Mom!" Time to get up we are going to the hospital and having a baby today! I told her NO that's tomorrow. It took a little bit for her to get it through my groggy head that she was going to be giving me a birthday present! and she totally did. She gave me a dark hair beautiful little grand daughter. Now I can enjoy spoiling 2. I have decided that the best thing in the world is being a Grandma! There is nothing that come close to that! I have been married for 30 years to a man that lives for his family. He only wants the best for all of us and spoils us all! He is a good man that works hard for his dollar. We have a pretty good marriage to say the least. Well it must be if we can put up with each others faults this long! My mom who has Alzehimers lives with us and has been for almost 3 years now. She is in the finally stages of the disease and still hangs in there. She loves to grab the broom and sweep. She does this everyday, and several times a day. I keeps her busy. She will even sweep the counch or the kitchen table if you let her. My oldest daughter is going to be 34 years old this year and hasn't lived at home in 16 years. I spend as must time as I can with her. But it is never enough. She plans on coming home to live and take care of us in 7 years. I cant wait! It's my dream to have her home. She is a dear friend to me and we have a great relationship. she always tells me that I am her best friend.
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