How do you stop a parent from being unfair? My daughter is my husbands favorite, her daughter is my husbands favorite granddaughter. This year it is has become extremely obvious to me. My daughter has needed our help, so the 'rent' we have been getting from the illinois house $500/mo she has been keeping to pay groceries for her household (2 working adults) . My son gets $150/mo to help him keep his phone while he pays off debts incurred while he was still married, He rents a room in a house. He pays child support for children he doesn't see often-and my husband has forgotten to send it. For birthdays, my daughters family gets 3-4 hundred each, my son gets 2oo for him 1oo for each girl; for christmas, well, daughter, s-i-l were going to get $500 each, plus we bought $80 watch for granddaughter to give mom, plus $200 for granddaughter then we were going to get a wii, but my daugher told my SO that granddaughter needs bed, so now granddaughter is getting bed and family is still getting wii. Son well, he is getting $300, plus $100 for each of his 2 girls, plus the complete set of the Twilight hardback books, (that I got 30% off; I managed to get each of his girls a big coloring book and crayons, and a blendy pen set to share, as well as the 'Trouble' game to keep at my son's place to play with. But does anyone else see the lopsidedness of this? I managed to convince my husband to reduce some money from our daughter's family and give to our son's family. They are our children-not a blended family. Then my husband has the gall to tell me that he doesn't have the money to get me anything for Christmas and he doesn't know what to get me. He wasn't kidding either. I told him that he had two bonds to cash. I have six. Since we didn't need that money to travel to Illinois. So now son may be getting $400, but still daughter's daughter is getting way more in gifts, not to mention the books. I know part of this is because we are closer to her that to the other two, but this is not the childrens fault. I just don't know how to fix it. This is how my father treated my children compared to my sisters because we didn't live in MA and I couldn't afford for them to be calling all the time. Any Ideas from long distance grandparents? Help