I am still changing my behavior to keep things quiet. It is the easiest way to deal with things right now. I know it is not the healthiest way. But one small step at a time. We did talk, and I explained a few things, one of them being that if things didn't change, I don't expect our marriage to last longer than 5 years. I don't. He doesn't know where that is coming from-its coming from communication skills. his "forgetting' things-alot. My saying I would like to do something, and his ignoring some of it. It is easier not to fight it right now. I know that it's the coward's way out, but I did not want to fight all week end, and it was a pleasant week end. He wasn't feeling well, and we did end up snuggling a bit. He's home sick today. I am at work. Still no real alone time. I didn't read or crochet. Just watched tv with him. And made split pea soup. BORING. But he was happy. Although as we were going to bed last night was that he didn't know where I was coming from saying that we weren't going to last more than 5 years. He did take a nap, but I was playing solitare, while watching the soup, couldn't really concentrate on my writing then. I have tendency to burn split pea if not careful.