I think B thinks that since our 'date' went so well yesterday, all is forgiven/forgotten. He called me at lunch. Now, today has been tough enough with getting home an hour after normal bedtime. Add to that, it is timekeeping day, and a call from my manager that he needed to know which employee was using a particular time code. Manager did not say that it would be in his direct reports-I started looking at all employees within the entire branch-40 employees. Found him. Then B starts calling.

me:Uh, what problem? B No problem, just wanted to ask what else needed at grocery store? Me Nothing. B Had fun last night. me Yes. B I love you. Me uh.(I am sorting payroll stuff) B Cats sleeping on your bed. She didn't eat much this morning. Me I have to go, payroll. B I forgot its payroll day today. I love you. Me Bye. B Bye, I love you.

Then he calls me at lunch again. Much the same conversation. I am not wavering on the boundary-work has to be done on the relationship. LOTS and LOTS of work. One pleasant night does not undo years of brushing me off.

What "I" want is a priority for me, and it is not changing. That is what is different. Little things such as what I think about anything to how I want the bedroom to look like-my choice. Finally. His little digs about 'your room' are getting tiring. He is the one that opted to move out. I didn't ask him to. But he did. He is not comfortable on the chair.

I just thought of something, I have mentioned that I would love to move someplace with a larger kitchen. I could do without a 'garden room' if we had a decent kitchen with an eating area. He has put up lots of arguments. Yes the location is good and rent reasonable, but it has been going down hil and then a new developement. Last night when we came home, there was a posted announcement that deliveries would no longer be kept at the front office but be delivered right to the apartment. Ok, so now what happens if you are not home? The will be left in front of the door to be stolen and you will never know that they are delivered. One of the pluses of living here was the security of package delivery-of NOT having delivery persons roaming the hallways. I think that my comfort level is going to be a driving force. Time to look a new place to live-after we work on relationship for a bit and if things improve quite a bit. Than a new place is going to be in order. As well as a change of finance handling.(but that will be another discussion too!!)

See, I am not changing my boundaries. I am making sure I get my space. The space I have not had here. BOUNDARIES both physical and mental and emotional with be kept strongly in place. Thank you for helping me see this. I am so free inside, I feel like the time I got on that plane to go to basic training...

Free.