A second call did it. and I disturbed her out of town. She is not quite all the way done her training-she finishes in September. We have an appointment Thursday. I asked if she is familiar or has experience with personality disorders. I explained how my best friend describes my husband as abusive, even when I don't see it. (thank you TT-she said that it was good to know that someone else sees it and identified it.) I told her that it was NOT physical, all verbal, but that I had grown up with it..and I did not alway pick up with it. That boundaries were in place. I also said that my friend had to leave husband's prescence because of verbal abuse to me in past. I also told her that I don't want to give up after 33 years of marriage, but I am at end of rope, that if this doesn't work, I am gone.

She appreciated the honesty. Part of me feels that B doesn't have a chance cause she said, "if a person doesn't want to change, its not going to work. If his love isn't fully there-the marriage will end." So we will see.

I also told her about leaving messages all over the place about 6 months ago trying to get a T for me. And no call backs. Her voice is gentle, and peaceful. And it will be $45 a session. cheap. and it is in a place that is use to helping women.