"A foreign woman, coming among new laws,
New customs, needs the skill of magic, to find out
What her home could not teach her, how to treat the man
Whose bed she shares. And if in this exacting toil
We are successful, and our husband does not struggle
Under the marriage yoke, our life is enviable".

From Medea

Sometimes it feels like that, yeah. I need magic to make it through life here. And I do feel that when I am successful it somehow "counts" more than if I was doing the same thing at home.

but am I enviable? I don't know. On one hand I think people's knee jerk reaction would be yes. But it's the kind of envy of "wow that's so cool, I would never want to do that" though.

But then again, in Euripedes' time there was no internet for the wife to read her own language, and there were no transpacific flights for the wife to go home and see her family. Things are a heck of a lot easier now than they were just a 100 years ago. And that's amazing.