the stupid really is burning its way around these days
Mood:
fuming
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OMG UTAH WTF?
Criminalizing miscarriages? Seriously?
UU minister Debra Haffner on the subject
Also on the topic of sexuality, I'm near-convinced that the Rafael Nadal-Shakira "Gypsy" video is the Universe's sneaky way of ensuring that I cease frequenting tennis forums until after Easter, the better to focus on all the stuff I should be dealing with already: there's something about the "Rafa + Shakira chemistry = They Must Be Doing It" assumptions I've come across that's really rubbing me the wrong way, and the same with some of the stuff being said about/to his girlfriend (ranging from "you're actually okay with that?" to "Jesus, what were you thinking letting him do that?").
In fact, I've been feeling inordinately sharp-tongued on the subject of his girlfriend (who doesn't need my irrelevant help defending her judgment in any case). After stewing about it over the past day or so, I'm realizing that what's bothering me most is how the default reaction of many commenters hasn't been, "Wow, what an awesome, self-confident, supportive partner she is," but more along the lines of "Man, is she naive or dumb or just didn't get any say in the matter?" On a related note, it bothered me when some folks suggested that Andy Roddick ought to have a problem with Brooklyn Decker being featured on the cover of this year's SI swimsuit issue.
Ultimately, I can't help wishing I'd seen more people giving Xisca credit (or at least benefit of the doubt, dammit) for being mature and secure about her partner and his opportunities (and, for that matter, about her own options - the woman rocks a bikini with the best of them, and I somehow doubt she's ever lacked for offers on her own merits), and Roddick gets props from me for openly rejoicing in his wife's good fortune (and being open from the get-go about being first attracted to her looks. I'll save the tirade about people's assumptions that she's a bimbo for some other time).
The underpinnings of this rant come down to these points:
(1) the people whose bodies we enjoy beholding (often in some simulation of romance or sex) are almost always already someone's partner, sister, brother, daughter, son, and/or even parent. Why is it somehow Not Okay once we happen to know who their partner is? Why should it be Not Okay to their partner?
(2) what is it about fiction being fiction and acting being acting that so many people find impossible to comprehend?
Looking on the bright side, I should give props to Rafa, Shakira, and all us actors and writers who do pretend/perform/persuade so well that people are thus beguiled (and at times even besotted). And on that note, I ought to go attend to some of the too-real paperwork that trails the creation of pretty demi-truths. (After the sonnets, the spreadsheets. So it goes!)
Criminalizing miscarriages? Seriously?
UU minister Debra Haffner on the subject
Also on the topic of sexuality, I'm near-convinced that the Rafael Nadal-Shakira "Gypsy" video is the Universe's sneaky way of ensuring that I cease frequenting tennis forums until after Easter, the better to focus on all the stuff I should be dealing with already: there's something about the "Rafa + Shakira chemistry = They Must Be Doing It" assumptions I've come across that's really rubbing me the wrong way, and the same with some of the stuff being said about/to his girlfriend (ranging from "you're actually okay with that?" to "Jesus, what were you thinking letting him do that?").
In fact, I've been feeling inordinately sharp-tongued on the subject of his girlfriend (who doesn't need my irrelevant help defending her judgment in any case). After stewing about it over the past day or so, I'm realizing that what's bothering me most is how the default reaction of many commenters hasn't been, "Wow, what an awesome, self-confident, supportive partner she is," but more along the lines of "Man, is she naive or dumb or just didn't get any say in the matter?" On a related note, it bothered me when some folks suggested that Andy Roddick ought to have a problem with Brooklyn Decker being featured on the cover of this year's SI swimsuit issue.
Ultimately, I can't help wishing I'd seen more people giving Xisca credit (or at least benefit of the doubt, dammit) for being mature and secure about her partner and his opportunities (and, for that matter, about her own options - the woman rocks a bikini with the best of them, and I somehow doubt she's ever lacked for offers on her own merits), and Roddick gets props from me for openly rejoicing in his wife's good fortune (and being open from the get-go about being first attracted to her looks. I'll save the tirade about people's assumptions that she's a bimbo for some other time).
The underpinnings of this rant come down to these points:
(1) the people whose bodies we enjoy beholding (often in some simulation of romance or sex) are almost always already someone's partner, sister, brother, daughter, son, and/or even parent. Why is it somehow Not Okay once we happen to know who their partner is? Why should it be Not Okay to their partner?
(2) what is it about fiction being fiction and acting being acting that so many people find impossible to comprehend?
Looking on the bright side, I should give props to Rafa, Shakira, and all us actors and writers who do pretend/perform/persuade so well that people are thus beguiled (and at times even besotted). And on that note, I ought to go attend to some of the too-real paperwork that trails the creation of pretty demi-truths. (After the sonnets, the spreadsheets. So it goes!)
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