Of the three secretaries in our division, I am the only one in today. One has her normal day off. The other one,G called off saying she would be late. Uh, never came in, and I got a message at 2:10 to call her to do her time. I had to 'fake it' for a couple of her employees as I don't have timesheets or p#s etc to contact employees. Time was suppose to be done by 2. She had said she did it yesterday(she normally does it on Thursdays. But then again, she had said she would be in today too. G was out because her house is still not ready.. This is the one who had a fire, and she has not kept up on the builder and the insurance company said they would stop paying on the rented house this week. She had 2 months notice and did nothing till last week. But then again, G waits till the last minute for everything. She was suppose to retire for the buyout, waited till the last minute to let manager know she wasn't eligible after she said she was going-collection had been made, she had shredded files and everything. She didn't read everything. Passive Aggressive. I am learning. At least I let everyone know as soon as I do that I am not coming in. Ok, enough grip about today.

I guess what I am really upset about with G was a story she told about what she did with her 12/13 year old granddaughter. This happened Sunday. G had a meeting after church. GD had gone with G. GD went to car and stood in rain. Called G on cellphone. "GM, unlock the car, I'm getting wet." G says,"You know I have a meeting, I'm not unlocking the car, come back inside the church till I'm done." GD didn't go back inside church. By time G was done with meeting, GD was soaked. Ok, 12/13 year olds do not think reasonably all the time. Gd starts to fuss at G. "My hair is wet. What took you so long. I'm soaked to the skin" in that snotty way teenagers can get. G tells her to shut up. (exact words are being used.) They get in the car and start driving and GD continues on how wet she is and being snotty. G tells her Shut up. GD doesn't so G raises arm and backhands GD. GD continues mouthing off, G hits her again. G says it took 4 times before GD shut up.

And other women in the group seemed to think that this was appropriate behavior-that this was disciplining the GD. Uh, no, telling the GD, you chose to stand outsice in the rain so you are wet. And, You may talk to your friends like that, but you don't talk to ME like that-or you can call you parents for a ride home or walk home. would have done a whole lot more. BTW, the family is African American, the women who agreed with her are too. Violence is a problem-and G has her older grandson's living with her cause they can't seem to get their live's together. They don't respect her or follow her rules.

Now, what is really bad, G was telling this story in front of our Director. My bosses, bosses boss. This is the woman who was giving us a "Tea and Crumpets" appreciation for all we do as administrative assistants. This boss made the tea sandwiches herself-egg, cucumber, salmon, apple and cheese, and two different types of scones, 4 types of tea. It was enough of a spread.

I sat there wanting so bad to say "And all of you want to know why kids beat up other kids!" And they thought the father that shot his daughter's laptop was right too. The daughter was too entitled. Uh, she had to be taught that entitlement way before now! (unless there was a personality disorder which there doesn't seem to be-just spoiled teenager syndrome)

But I can't say a word, cause I don't know what I am talking about. Backhanding a 12/13 year old in the face is appropriate. Talking isn't. Stomach still turns.